The four harsh truths that everyone in my generation needs to accept

I’m a young person.

A ‘young adult,’ supposedly. I’m married with two kids and back problems, so I don’t necessarily feel like it all the time, but I do fall into that coveted 18-34 demographic.

As a young person, I take special note of all the bad press we tend to get. I’m sure you heard about the 18-year-old woman (not kid, not child, not teenager — woman) who sued her parents to force them to pay for her college tuition. She lost the first round in court, but you can bet that we haven’t read the last of this sordid tale.

I’m sure you’ve also heard about the various studies and reports, released every few months it seems, confirming and reconfirming and confirming again that people in my generation are very reluctant to move out of mom and dad’s house. A report this past summer found that over 21 million millennials are still sharing a mailing address with their parents.

And, of course, there are the statistics on millennial unemployment, and millennial drug abuse, and millennial alcoholism. Millennials afraid to get married, afraid to start families, afraid to move out, afraid to do anything. Millennials in hibernation and stagnation; standing still while the world speeds by.

We get the picture. It’s not always a fair picture, either. Many of us do not deserve this humiliating reputation. And every person who ‘lives at home’ isn’t necessarily an apathetic loser hiding from work and responsibility, although some fit the bill.

Still, extended adolescence is a very real epidemic in my generation (it’s a problem amongst the Boomers, too, but that’s a subject for a different post). I don’t need any study or statistic to tell me that; I see it with my own eyes every single day. It is a disease that afflicts many in my age group.

So I’d like to speak to my fellow young people for a moment. I’d like to share with them four absolute truths that we must all accept if we ever wish to find success and fulfillment in this world. These are the things that I’ve discovered in my eight years of independence and self-sufficiency.

The cure to perpetual adolescence can be found in these four realities.

Embrace them, and embrace growth.

Here they are:

The Four Harsh Truths That Everyone In My Generation Needs to Accept

1) Nobody owes us anything.

Literally. Figuratively. Metaphorically. Physically. In the material, in the abstract. In every conceivable way — we are owed nothing. We are entitled to nothing. Maybe it’s been said so many times that the words just whizz right past us, but we really ought to stop and reflect upon this reality.

We are not children. Nobody has to give us anything anymore. We can go hungry, and feel pain, and live without — we will, in fact. And this will be no great injustice because it isn’t anyone’s job to shield us from discomfort in the first place. Nobody promised us a life of ease and pleasure, and if they did they lied.

We have no place to be outraged when we are made to experience some small measure of suffering or sacrifice. This is what it means to exist as a separate, distinct, mature human being. This is what it means be alive. The world has left bumps and bruises on everyone, why should we be the exception? Even if we can think of a reason, it doesn’t matter. We won’t be the exception. Why would we even want to be?

2) We have to work.

I know people slightly younger than me who’ve never had a fulltime job. Ever. They mutter things about ‘the economy’ and ‘the tough job market,’ but the groove on the couch and the glossy look in their eyes tells me that video games and lethargy are much bigger factors in their current predicament. The lazy, video-game-playing manchild is a stereotype, but it’s a stereotype for a reason.

Here’s a thought. If you don’t have a job, you shouldn’t be playing with toys. A revolutionary idea, I realize, but it’s something to consider.

There is work to be done in this country, and there is no reason why we shouldn’t be the ones doing it. Can’t find a cushy, high paying job with competitive benefits and three weeks paid vacation every year? Join the club, your Highness. Now go flip a burger, dig a ditch, mop a floor. Something. ANYTHING.

There is absolutely no excuse for a young person to turn down any job offer. How is it possible that fast food joints across the country go understaffed while 24-year-olds sit around at home, complaining that there aren’t any jobs available? Stop whining. Put on your business casual, walk in there, shake the manager’s hand, ask for an application, get the gig, work hard, operate with enthusiasm and competence. In 6 months you’ll be running the place.

We cannot claim that there aren’t any opportunities. If we’re willing to humble ourselves and put in the work, there are opportunities aplenty.

As I’ve previously explained, I recently decided to go into business for myself, using the success of this website as my platform. There aren’t very many one-person opinion blogs that get more traffic than mine. I earned that. None of this happened by accident. But if this whole thing comes crashing down tomorrow, if my uniques plummet and my readership disappears and my ad revenue dries up (and it could, the internet is a fickle beast), do you know what I’d do?

I’d become a trash collector. I’d be a janitor at the school down the street. I’d get a job moving boxes, or clearing brush, or mowing lawns, or cleaning dishes. I’d do whatever I needed to do, and I’d spend my free time crafting my long range plans. I wouldn’t give up on my dreams, but I’d forge a new path. And I’d never stop working.

Whatever the case, here’s what I know I wouldn’t do: nothing. Nothing is not an option.

3) We’ll never be successful if we don’t take risks.

I’m talking about smart risks; not guzzling 9 beers and going for a drive at 2AM type of risks. I’m talking about bold but calculated risks.

It causes me actual, real pain when I run into young people afraid of risks — afraid to strike out on their own because it ‘might not work out.’

Might not work out?

OF COURSE it won’t ‘work out’ at first. That’s part of the fun.

OK, maybe not fun, per se. But it’s part of the adventure.

What, we refuse to get on with our lives until we’re guaranteed safe passage and smooth travels? Well, I guess our lives will go unlived, because trust me, we will never be afforded such a guarantee.

When you’re young — particularly when you don’t yet have a family of your own — you can do anything. You can go anywhere. You can chase any dream. You can move across the country. You can work four jobs at once. You can live out of your car or under a bridge or in a tent. You can go all in. Swing for the fences. Toss up Hail Marys. Whatever overused sports metaphor you prefer — that’s what you can do.

You are untethered and unburdened. You are mobile. You can carve out your niche. You can make radical decisions. You can walk out on that ledge in pursuit of bigger things. You can take risks, because there isn’t that much at stake. Not yet, anyway.

4) Nobody cares about our excuses.

Notice I didn’t say that ‘we can’t make excuses’ or ‘there aren’t any good excuses.’ We can and there are. For every personal failure, there are thousands of perfectly reasonable excuses and rationalizations.

There are valid excuses to explain your shortcomings — but nobody cares. It’s that simple: nobody cares.

Out here, standing on the cold, unforgiving ground of solid reality, our worth is inexorably connected to our ability to get things done.

We all have inherent value as human beings. But if we want people to value our opinions, our efforts, and our time — especially if we want someone to pay us for it — we have to get things done. If we don’t, the reasons won’t matter. Good reasons, bad reasons, it makes no difference.

So maybe we’re sick, maybe we’re tired, maybe our dog just died, maybe our lives are hard, maybe nobody understands our struggles. Fine. Millions of people are sick and tired. Millions of people’s dogs just died. Millions are struggling. Nobody understands anyone else’s pain and suffering. Everyone’s life is hard. Everyone. Nobody on this planet has an easy life. That simply isn’t in the cards for anyone. No sense in bemoaning the fact. We might as well just get up and get on with it.

We might think our excuses are better because our hardships are greater, but they aren’t because they aren’t. Our excuses are about as valid as everyone else’s.

It’s not that successful people don’t have excuses — it’s just that they don’t use them. Hence the success.

And that’s the truth.

These are all truths.

And here’s the good news: we — all of us — have indescribable potential. A young person with ambition, character, courage; a young person willing to work and sacrifice and take risks; a young person who thinks outside of the pop culture, video game, gossip magazine cage; a young person willing to scratch and claw and fight and dig and learn and grow, is an absolutely unstoppable force. A world-beater. This is a person with the power to unlock the universe and bring out its beauty, and truth, and joy.

History might be written by the old, but it’s made by the young. Just look at Thomas Jefferson, or Alexander the Great, or William Wallace, or Joan of Arc, or Beethoven, or Frederick Douglas, or Martin Luther King Jr. Young pioneers, all of them. Conquerors, artists, heroes. Martyrs.

That’s our destiny — to be the people who change the paradigm. Not vassals and slaves and mindless, shallow, lackadaisical sloths.

There is so much we can do, so much that must be done, but it starts with accepting the reality of the world in which we live.

This is that reality.

It really isn’t so bad once you get used to it.

 

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378 Responses to The four harsh truths that everyone in my generation needs to accept

  1. EmJaye8 says:

    Dangit. I bet my sisters and I were counted in that study. We still share a mailing address with our parents because even though we’re expats living and working in Asia, we still need a permanent address in the USA. Make that 21 million minus 3.

    • EmJay8, I don’t think living and working in Asia counts as being lazy. Many unmarried military personnel use their parents’ addresses as “home of record,” as do most expats living and working in foreign countries. My son is 41 and unmarried; he lives and works in another country and has for more than 10 years. My address is his U.S. address; I have moved twice, so his address has changed twice while he has been overseas. I have suggested he use a different relative’s address, since mine is apt to change at least once more, possibly two or three times, and he probably will not return to the States any time soon. He is self-sufficient, as I believe are you and your sisters, but, as you stated, you need a permanent address in the USA for purposes of doing all those things US citizens do — passport, DL, credit cards, student loan payments, voter registration… You’re not a perpetual adolescent if you are that far from home and not depending on your parents to support your expat lifestyle. There are expats whose parents keep them bolstered with bank accounts so they can avoid responsibilities and continue doing what they would do here. They’re still living on their parents’ dime, but without the nagging that goes along with sitting on the couch playing video games, smoking dope, staying out until the wee hours and generally living in a state of arrested development. Sadly, many of us Boomer generation parents tend to be the enablers instead of the catalysts that boost them into full adulthood. They think they’re adults due to chronology. But without developing a sense of responsibility and self-sufficiency, they’re just aging adolescents.

  2. Kim Spencer says:

    I think my generation of parents have to accept some responsibility here. With social media and cell phones, parents have stayed in touch more with their kids for longer periods of time than ours ever did. If this generation, all they had to do e=was use their cell phone to call mom or dad and have them “fix it” whatever “it” was. Result, kids who do not know how to problem solve and work through difficult situations. When we were in college, you might talk to your parents once a week, long distance calls were expensive. If a problem came up, we had to solve it and we didn’t think anything about it, we just did it. No big deal. That is just the way it was. We were never as dependent on our parents as this age group is today. There was no running to or calling mom or dad to take care of it. Now, the norm is for parents to call college professors on behalf of their children as if the child were still in high school. So, parents–STOP!! Let your kids become independent and problem solvers. Otherwise, guess what, they will be sharing the same address as you. Time to suck it up everyone and toughen up!! Not that hard!! Grow up parents and kids….let go of one another!

    • Katty says:

      I understand, but I also think you’re highly exaggerating. Calling college professors is definitely NOT “the norm”. As a college student, I don’t know anyone who’s ever done that or anything close to it. And if they did, other students would think they’re crazy.

      • August says:

        Maybe not the norm for where you are and who you know, but my husband is the manager of a restaurant that employs older teens and college-age kids, and he has had his fair share of parents calling “the boss” (him) to make excuses for their children, who are old enough to be taking up issues with their boss themselves. It’s actually pretty common for this younger generation of teens and young adults to have mom and dad solve their problems for them.

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  4. AT says:

    They’re not going to accept those truths because they’re too used to denying reality. They’ve been so conditioned to the fact that everything’s subjective – which it’s not – that they won’t understand what Walsh is saying at a fundamental level.

    Forget trying to teach this generation truths. First they have to learn the simple logic required to understand anything rationally.

  5. Martha says:

    What a crock of shit. Everyone claims to everything about what millienials are doing because they haven’t experienced it themselves . Call me when you’re 100k debt in a STEM major and stil can’t get work living with you’re dying parents who cant retire because you can’t find work in this shitty economy boomers created

    • Calm down Martha. You took on the debt, stop making excuses for your shortcomings and get on with your life. If you think that your life sucks, change it!

    • Blah says:

      Martha, No one will understand us!! Older generations think that education costs today are proportionate to education costs 30 years ago!! This is not the case! Education costs has fallen victim to predatory lending causing education costs to exponentially increase while the big employment salary “payoff” after college has remained stagnant AT BEST. Just ask an architect graduate… they’ll tell you what their $100k degree is worth…

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  7. Scott Bridge says:

    This article left out one very important fact: who worked so hard and so long to raise young people to be risk-averse and have a strong sense of entitlement? Their overprotective helicopter parents. That’s who.

    We adults are very much responsible for how young people turned out, pure and simple and yet we’re putting all of the blame and burden of out mistakes on young people.

    What a Great Big Cop-out!

    Yes, young people do indeed need to take charge of their lives, blaze their own trails and the first and foremost step is to resolve to NOT follow their parents’ footsteps. Adults’ footsteps deserve NOT to be followed or emulated – period!

    I ask now: how many adults today, and in previous generations, were trailblazers? Just about none. Yes, you have your few exceptions like Henry Ford, Albert Einstein or Bill Gates, but the vast majority of adults today and in past decades lived and practiced uneventful mediocre lives and they supported the status quo with every last ounce of their being.

    Yes, young people indeed have a very heavy burden put on their shoulders. They will need to clean up the Great Big Messes that adults today and of previous generations left behind and then set life paths that adults have been much too afraid to pursue, forge and realize.

  8. sabermonkey says:

    So I agree with most of the opinions written here, but I do not agree with taking a job that pays less than 10 dollars an hour, yes if you really need the extra cash maybe. But slaving away for someone else’s gain while you don’t even make close to a livable wage for even a single person. That doesn’t make any sense to stop personal growth over a 7.50 an hr job or wow maybe even 8 dollars. Have you ever actually tried to live on such a wage? I see friends do it till they found a better job, i even did it as a third job once. well just to survive they had to sale there possesions almost not making rent and then forced to work while being feed on awful food. Have you ever seen a pack of so called steak from the dollar store? I didn’t know it even exsisted till not long ago. So yes for some people that have the luxury of staying at home till they do find a better job I say good on them. Do not support a business model that does nothing but destroy the real American dream. Think about how many people are forced to sign up for government assistanc with medical and food just because some corporations refuse to pay a livable wage. Tricky of them isn’t, just shifting the burden of paying for basic nessecities on our tax paying dollar. Wake up american, our children need better options.

    • Sarah says:

      Wow, that’s funny. I’ve worked for less than $10 an hour my entire life, and raised a daughter on that wage. I managed to pay my bills. Wonder how I was able to do that…

      You do what you have to do to take care of yourself and your family. You don’t complain because you don’t get paid what you think you should. Maybe if you earned that wage and worked hard enough, you’d get it. Corporations aren’t purposefully hiding money from you, they’re making ends meet the same way you are. They work harder, and have worked harder for longer, and therefore they make more. It’s called capitalism, and it’s what our country was founded for.
      Wake up, sabermonkey. Earn your paycheck, pay your bills, and make ends meet. It’s that simple.

      • adn258 says:

        You obviously know nothing about economics or capitalism.

        -”Corporations…They work harder?” Actually most of the people that own any substantial amount of a large corporation don’t work hard at all. That’s why they hire people like you for under 10 dollars an hour so they can profit off of your labor. So actually the ones that make a lot of money don’t work hard in capitalism, rather they make others work hard FOR THEM.

        -Quit telling people to “wake up” simply because they don’t have the same opinion as you about everything it makes you look silly.

        -”Our country was founded for capitalism”. Our country was founded off resisting the British because they were enslaving us, taking all of our money, and believe it or not FORCING US INTO LABOR for the benefit of an elite few (mainly the king) which is sounding more and more like what we have today all of the time.

        -Poor people are tired of being accused of being lazy by idiots like the guy that runs this blog. Poor people usually DO WORK. As a matter of fact most of us almost never stop thinking about work and working. Our lives revolve around it.

        -The part that is the most angering about you and this blog in general is that you seem to blame all of the world’s problems on supposed “lazy poor people”, when there are rich guys wearing suits and ties (bankers and the ultra rich) that are ruining this country for everyone except themselves. Apparently these people don’t exist though. Corrupt bankers etc. It’s all just poor lazy people that cause problems.

        I just wish the writer of this blog would use 25% of that energy he has used for writing about how lazy poor people are, and instead look into how bankers and the rich are screwing us. Then maybe he could write just one article about that instead of condemning “poor lazy people all of the time”.

        Also for the record I am an atheist, but since the creator of this blog is Christian obviously you might like to know that if Jesus really did exist, he probably would really hate the rich Capitalists and rich “Corporations” that you say have worked so hard. Lets see what your Bible has to say about the Rich which would entail modern day corporations and capitalists:

        Matthew 6:24
        “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

        James 5:1-6
        Come now, you rich, weep and howl for the miseries that are coming upon you. 2 Your riches have rotted and your garments are moth-eaten. 3 Your gold and silver have corroded, and their corrosion will be evidence against you and will eat your flesh like fire. You have laid up treasure in the last days. 4 Behold, the wages of the laborers who mowed your fields, which you kept back by fraud, are crying out against you, and the cries of the harvesters have reached the ears of the Lord of hosts. 5 You have lived on the earth in luxury and in self-indulgence. You have fattened your hearts in a day of slaughter. 6 You have condemned and murdered the righteous person. He does not resist you

        Luke 18:25
        For it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.”

        Timothy 6:10
        For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.

        James 5:1
        Come now, you rich, weep and howl for the miseries that are coming upon you.

        Luke 6:20
        And he lifted up his eyes on his disciples, and said: “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.

        Timothy 6:9
        But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction.

        Luke 12:33-34
        Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

        I notice this day in age it seems to be the conservative Christians that desire to be rich. As an atheist I have absolutely NO DESIRE to become rich. Would I like to make a bit more money? Possibly, but my desire to become extremely rich is 0. If I were rich I would be embarrassed and ashamed thinking about all of the poor people out there.

        The first thing I would do if I ever became rich is give almost all of my money away. It would actually consider it an embarrassment and a big burden in my life.

    • Lena says:

      stop personal growth for $7.50 or $8.00 an hour? What does having a job have to do with your personal growth? If anything it will probably help it, you can learn character. And yes, I have lived on less than $10 an hour as a single person. Was it tough, sure, but it’s doable, you just have to be smart, and willing to give up luxuries (iphones, internet, steak, alcohol), you know, all those things that are a nice bonus, but not necessary to your survival. If you want to make more money, take the time to get an education or learn a trade so that your qualified to make more money. Which is what I did while I worked that job that paid less than $10 an hour.

      • “If you want to be unable to live on small amounts of money, take the time to get an education or learn a trade so that you’re in debt and can’t afford the basics.”

        Or

        “If you want to make more money, take the time to get wealthy connections so your entitled to make more money.”

        I’m not sure which which way you intended to go with that, but I fixed it for you either way.

        Unless you’re so dreamy eyed that you think an education leads to a career. It doesn’t even lead to being more knowledgeable anymore in most cases.

  9. Boomer says:

    I am a boomer, first generation of two working parents in the household. And yes, we can accept some of the blame for allowing our children to believe they deserved all that we didn’t have. I worked hard for it and provided opportunities for my Gen X and Gen Y children. Oh yes, they are different but both afforded the same opportunities. My Gen X challenges everything and already knows it all despite what we say. We used to think that it was determination but now we understand that it is more skirting our opinion and don’t tell me what I already know. Luckily, she has skills and is gainfully employed. It doesn’t stop her from living in, and paying the mortgage (plus some), on a house we own . I still hope that she will buy her own someday as an independent woman but it is home to my grandchildren after a messy breakup. My Gen Y googles everything we say. She introduced me to this article and admitted that I have been telling her this for some time but she really didn’t want to believe it until she saw this. She too, was afforded opportunities and while living in one of my houses, saved enough money to buy her own (we now live with her – during the summer months). She is job hunting after losing a lucrative job but says that she will work flipping burgers if she has to. I see how the each generation must accept their own responsibility in this. After all, if you didn’t work for what you need/want, you can’t expect it to be handed to you. Unfortunately, some of us boomers, just handed it out because we had two incomes and inflation took time to catch up with us. Well, that all changed in 2007/2008. It took me awhile to “retire” from providing those opportunities for my adult children, and yes, I let them fall and figure it out. They learned from it and it made us all stronger together with lessons learned for each generation. What I still hope for is that the opportunities will be repayed if I need someone to look out for me as I age. If we can understand the benefits of our labor to help ourselves and others, we can all make it through the economic challenging times together.

    • Taryn Noël says:

      Thank you boomer for your post! As a tail-end gen Xer/Y, born Dec. of 1976. I appreciate your input as a parent and Bommer. I’ve lived and lost it all to a messy divorce, served my country in the Army for 10 years as a female enlisted soldier, recently finished my bachelors degree, been a home owner 2xs and lost a home to a short sale in 2009, lived with my father to restart, and birthed a gen Z son. He will be raised, formed and molded by my experiences, and frankly that scares the sh*t out of me, but as I look back over history, the pendulum marking a true, fair, and just life swings freely, ever nudged by choices, only to slide back towards center gravity. I hope we are on the downward swing and that for, a time at least, my child will be a little closer to center.

      • Doc says:

        Totally agree, I am a boomer (Brit Mil 74 to 87) but do not totally blame the generations that came after us, once Clinton got rid of Bank Regulations (Steagal Act) the Corporations went to town and by 2008 had almost destroyed the whole shebang, did they get punished hell no, Too big to Fail, Sorry Matt each generation doesn’t operate in a vacuum, the ordinary Jane and Joe got screwed, and are still getting screwed, I am all about a level playing field but when you have crony capitalism its just as bad as communism, all the political parties are to blame, they all feed at the same trough… I’m disappointed that you don’t seem to mention that… Todays kids are smarter than the boomers and they see that… because the refuse to buy into a Ponzi scheme they are declared as lazy, indolent, selfish, narcissistic… My sounds like your describing every ‘Young’ generation that was ever born… isn’t that the point of being young, going out, having fun, sowing your wild oats prior to becoming an adult…. Hell most boomers encouraged them to do it, they wanted their kids to have the lives they couldn’t afford to have….
        I work for a corporation, travel a lot, but lets get real, their is no loyalty due you from them… they couldn’t care less, so am I surprised when gen x,y,z don’t buy into this bullshit… nope…
        As far as I am concerned it will take a complete collapse of the whole rotten system before anyone will participate willingly..
        Doc: Out:

  10. I don’t think there’s anything new here. Employment for college graduates is always shit. What’s changed is the lack of support for public universities and the apparent ease which people fall into a debt hole that is synonymous with most peoples first real estate purchase. Just 20 years ago a person could work a part time job and pay for school. The mistake people make is thinking that a degree means that they now get handed the reins to rule the universe. This generation, with the exception of really poor people, hasn’t really experienced much pain. Paying your dues is part of the deal. Life starts out as a somewhat unsavory sandwich from which you will take many bites to get to where you think you want to be. Unless you’re born into one of the top tier families whose children all go to Harvard or Yale, you won’t have a soft landing after you graduate. There are plenty of ways to be successful that don’t have anything to do with going to some school that has been converted to a diploma mill, from which you have garnered little real world knowledge. Many of the most successful people in the world never went to or finished college because they had an idea, a passion for what they wanted. So entitlement thinking was probably born from a world where kids saw people making money off some pretty stupid ideas that blew up in the faces of the crooked bankers, financial crooks and assorted crooked politicians. 8 million jobs evaporated and the supporting structure for those jobs went with those jobs. In many ways there has never been more opportunity than right now. The dinosaurs of business are dying off in a race to the bottom of the barrel. People will want better than what’s offered and will figure out that you need to spend your capital at home if you wish to have a home. The super rich will soon figure out that you can have all the money in the world and it doesn’t mean a damn thing if you don’t put your pile of cash to work encouraging people who will innovate and create the world for the generation coming up through the ranks. All the old ways of doing things are being eclipsed at the speed of computer operating systems. That’s not to say that we need to throw everything out the door. People need to find their place in the world, even if it means failing multiple times. Sooner or later you will get to the level you need to keep you coming back for Monday.

  11. Mike Smith says:

    I am not a millennial , but have kids who are. No one should be painted with the brush of extremes away from the norm. As Solomon said ‘there is nothing new under the sun’. This has been going on for a long time, based on my read of history and my experience and observation. There have always been slackers and always will be. There are always those who do well. Do well and listen not to the stereotypes.

  12. k23mt says:

    Our generation knows that…..you must not get out much.

  13. gdf93 says:

    I’m 20 years old and I understand that nothing is “owed” to me, but all through high school I heard from adults, “You’ll be lucky if you ever get to retire.” So I’m going to college so I can (theoretically) get a good job to pay off that college. And once I do that, what do I get to do? Oh yeah, I get to work until I die. I get to wake up, go to work, come home, watch tv, go to bed and repeat. Until I die. Which goes against the whole “life is short, don’t waste it.” kind of outlook. Not to mention since 2008 we’ve watched the country go to shit. We see that Big Business has their hands in the government’s pockets and have it set up so we work, and they get richer. And whats the answer I always get when I ask what we can do about them? Nothing. I’m told I can do nothing about it. So thats what we’ll do, nothing.

  14. Paul Daniel says:

    I love it. Thank you.

  15. jcroffor says:

    A point by point reply:

    1) Stewardship is the idea that our children are entitled to a world in about the same shape that we received it. We might not be owed anything as individuals, but each generation has responsibilities towards its heirs.

    2) A requirement that every individual have gainful employment is a recent invention that primarily benefits would-be employers who have seen the price of labor fall as the ranks of labor have swollen. Single income households used to be pretty common. The second adult’s job was maintaining the household and raising the kids and those tasks remain important for the future of the human race.

    3) Success largely comes from not taking large risks. The people who populate the boardrooms of non-tech companies got there largely on the basis of their social connections. If you define success as “getting significantly richer” or “becoming significantly more influential”, then those high rewards probably *did* necessitate some risk. Most people would probably define success as having financial stability and being able to raise a family, though, so your “truth” (that “success” require high risk) is not universally applicable.

    4) Successful people don’t use excuses because they don’t commit to doing things that they know that they can’t/won’t do. This point should be reformulated as “Learn to play off your strengths and minimize your weaknesses”.

  16. Carbonel says:

    You wrote: A report this past summer found that over 21 million millennials are still sharing a mailing address with their parents. .. We get the picture. It’s not always a fair picture, either. Many of us do not deserve this humiliating reputation. And every person who ‘lives at home’ isn’t necessarily an apathetic loser hiding from work and responsibility, although some fit the bill.

    I’d like to add a point for your consideration, since it fits neatly into the anti-child phenomenon you’ve covered extensively (My response to the “childfree” Too bad your parents didn’t agree with you. But I digress).

    If I could live with with my parents, I would. I’m nearly 50, completely independent, married, with a child. But, oh, I miss my mom and dad. They’re made of awesome. A friend of mine was lucky enough to have his dad, Jack live with him until his dad passed on to his reward. Modernism and post-modernism is anti-family like Woah. It’s not just hatin’ on the children; that parents take joy in their kids, but the inverse. That kids love and take joy in being with their parents, is seen as perverse. How broken is that?

    I don’t know if you’ve read Hold on to your kids about attachment parenting. It’s a decent book as far as it goes. But as a meditation on the nature of God and man, seen through the lens of the necessary relationship for mental, emotional and life-success health between parent and child it’s fairly astonishing. Written, by-the-by, by a secular physician.

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