“You’re a stay-at-home mom? What do you DO all day?”

It’s happened twice in a week, and they were both women. Anyone ought to have more class than this, but women — especially women — should damn well know better.

Last week, I was at the pharmacy and a friendly lady approached me.

“Matt! How are those little ones doing?”

“Great! They’re doing very well, thanks for asking.”

“Good to hear. How ’bout your wife? Is she back at work yet?”

“Well she’s working hard at home, taking care of the kids. But she’s not going back into the workforce, if that’s what you mean.”

“Oh fun! That must be nice!”

“Fun? It’s a lot of hard work. Rewarding, yes. Fun? Not always.”

This one wasn’t in-your-face. It was only quietly presumptuous and subversively condescending.

The next incident occurred today at the coffee shop. It started in similar fashion; a friendly exchange about how things are coming along with the babies. The conversation quickly derailed when the woman hit me with this:

“So is your wife staying at home permanently?”

“Permanently? Well, for the foreseeable future she will be raising the kids full time, yes.”

“Yeah, mine is 14 now. But I’ve had a career the whole time as well. I can’t imagine being a stay at home mom. I would get so antsy. [Giggles] What does she DO all day?”

“Oh, just absolutely everything. What do you do all day?”

“…Me? Ha! I WORK!”

“My wife never stops working. Meanwhile, it’s the middle of the afternoon and we’re both at a coffee shop. I’m sure my wife would love to have time to sit down and drink a coffee. It’s nice to get a break, isn’t it?”

The conversation ended less amicably than it began.

Look, I don’t cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn’t enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that’s what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most “professional” women aren’t rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don’t want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, “GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY.”

This conversation shouldn’t be necessary. I shouldn’t need to explain why it’s insane for anyone — particularly other women — to have such contempt and hostility for “stay at home” mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We’ve gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

The people who completely immerse themselves in the tiring, thankless, profoundly important job of raising children ought to be put on a pedestal. We ought to revere them and admire them like we admire rocket scientists and war heroes. These women are doing something beautiful and complicated and challenging and terrifying and painful and joyous and essential. Whatever they are doing, they ARE doing something, and our civilization DEPENDS on them doing it well. Who else can say such a thing? What other job carries with it such consequences?

It’s true — being a mom isn’t a “job.” A job is something you do for part of the day and then stop doing. You get a paycheck. You have unions and benefits and break rooms. I’ve had many jobs; it’s nothing spectacular or mystical. I don’t quite understand why we’ve elevated “the workforce” to this hallowed status. Where do we get our idea of it? The Communist Manifesto? Having a job is necessary for some — it is for me — but it isn’t liberating or empowering. Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being someone who has a job. I’m being real.

If your mother quit her role as mother, entire lives would be turned upside down; society would suffer greatly. The ripples of that tragedy would be felt for generations. If she quit her job as a computer analyst, she’d be replaced in four days and nobody would care. Same goes for you and me. We have freedom and power in the home, not the office. But we are zombies, so we can not see that.

Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined.

Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, “hey, it’s just the sun.”

Of course not all women can be at home full time. It’s one thing to acknowledge that; it’s quite another to paint it as the ideal. To call it the ideal, is to claim that children IDEALLY would spend LESS time around their mothers. This is madness. Pure madness. It isn’t ideal, and it isn’t neutral. The more time a mother can spend raising her kids, the better. The better for them, the better for their souls, the better for the community, the better for humanity. Period.

Finally, it’s probably true that stay at home moms have some down time. People who work outside the home have down time, too. In fact, there are many, many jobs that consist primarily of down time, with little spurts of menial activity strewn throughout. In any case, I’m not looking to get into a fight about who is “busier.” We seem to value our time so little, that we find our worth based on how little of it we have. In other words, we’ve idolized “being busy,” and confused it with being “important.” You can be busy but unimportant, just as you can be important but not busy. I don’t know who is busiest, and I don’t care. It doesn’t matter. I think it’s safe to say that none of us are as busy as we think we are; and however busy we actually are, it’s more than we need to be.

We get a lot of things wrong in our culture. But, when all is said and done, and our civilization crumbles into ashes, we are going to most regret the way we treated mothers and children.

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12,264 Responses to “You’re a stay-at-home mom? What do you DO all day?”

  1. priscilla says:

    Thank you for posting this. I am also a stay at home mom which I love and so does my husband . I hate when people are like oh your at home all day.. what do you do? Watch tv? No I. Take care of my kids… I’m a parent a teacher a wife role model. My mommy work. Not done till my kids are asleep. But I love being a mom and I wouldn’t change it. For anything.

  2. Francess says:

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  4. Kate says:

    …and on the other hand, I get heartily sick of people with kids assuming that I don’t have a life because I don’t have any… swings and roundabouts…

  5. Colleen says:

    Excellent article! I’m in my fifties and know many, many women my age that sorely regret not being able to afford to stay home to raise their children. Your wife is a blessing to the children, you, and society. Note: I do believe there are many that can afford to stay home (get by with one income), but truly do not have the love and patience it takes to deal with children ’round the clock. A good full-time mom is the most important job in the world.

    • Francia says:

      You are so wrong. Women who decide to work outside the home do love their children. They just know they can have a career and be a good mother. Women are so talented and skilled that we CAN be both, professionals and mothers. Do you believe there are many that can afford to stay home? In what world do you live? Because in my, we need two income to be able to have food on the table, pay rent, have insurance, a car. Maybe, for YOU have the opportunity to stay at home with your children, maybe your cincunstances are different, or maybe you just take advantage of working mom´d taxes.

    • Michele Williams says:

      Colleen: It’s just that women who work, keep a clean household and come home to cook, make their man happy and see to the school business of 3 Above Proficient, delightfully funny and sweet children can do it with more love, patience, and a fierce multitasking skill – than YOU could ever HOPE to … besides, have you ever worked in corporate America? Most of the adults I deal with are more childish and ridiculous than my children EVER were … Plus – once the kids start pre-school or kindergarten … where is the “round the clock care they need? The children are out of the house for 5+ hours … Oh, the S.A.H’s go to the gym (some do, anyways ….) well,I do that on my lunch hour …. I’m on the PTA Board for elementary, middle and high school that asks for an extra 4+ hours of my time per week Sept – June …. don’t have the love? Please – we have a great love and sense of purpose and action and THEN some … If you sorely regret not being able to stay home — than you obviously married wrong and are not just bitter …

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  7. rgouette says:

    I like Colleen’s sentiments.
    I’ve simply got to sing praise for my most amazing wife who, though nicely degreed, and fully able to work a “professional” job out in the corp workforce world, has chosen what I believe an even(much) higher calling. We have made the “sacrifice” to do with less than the Joneses in order to have her raising our kids ourselves: even to homeschool.
    No doubt many are dual incomes working full time because of necessity, though at the same time, I truly believe the “way of the world” is simply fast becoming at odds with what I would term the “traditional” role of motherhood.
    I’ve been in the professional world for a long time, and for me personally, when I see one of my colleagues(woman) expecting a child, I have to brace myself for the day when she will begin dropping little baby off at you know where. I can recall a recent example where a new mother expressed to coworkers how sad it made her to drop newborn off: and coworkers are quick to reassure her with the following advice: “don’t worry, it passes”.
    That sort of thing makes me both so sad and angry at the same time.
    I understand there are many fine folk walking around who lived that life.
    I’m just saying what’s on my mind.

    I tell people that my wife is part of “a dying breed”, though it saddens me to say so.
    Here’s hoping that turns out to be untrue..
    I hope I don’t offend anyone, I just had to chime in with my .02

    • Annette says:

      Well said Rich. I too am “nicely degreed” but chose to stay at home and raise my own children, instead of someone else doing it for me.

    • Renee Marie Long says:

      I was a happily single, business woman for many years, then in my 30s met and married a wonderful man (I know good people when I meet them and I would have been a fool to walk away) We had our only child at age 40 (heck of an age to START chasing babies!) I was apprehensive to say the least….at that point my income was greater than my husband’s (he is partially disabled) but it wouldn’t stretch for day care, and certainly couldn’t be sacrificed altogether to stay home with baby! I quickly sought education in human development and infant and toddler care, and not only became a professional mom….I extended that talent and expertise to other children. It brought socialization to both my child and myself – met and learned a lot about some great people who made different but equally satisfying choices for themselves. And no travel expense!

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  12. Jessica Mary says:

    As a mother with a daughter about to graduate, this is heavy on my mind. This is my perspective and in NO WAY a judgement of others… more a defense of myself and those like me. I feel as though we may be a dying breed.

    Imagine a girl about to graduate from high school. She is outgoing, has a 4.0 and has been class president, homecoming queen, etc. She could go anywhere and she could be anything. Of course, everyone wants to know what school she’s going to go to… what big plans she has. What she’s going to be. What career she’s going to choose. Inside, the girl says, “I want to be a mom. I want to get married and be home with my children”. She envisions basking in motherhood… having time to create and enjoy HER VERSION of what makes a happy home for her family. But, she knows that if those words are spoken out loud, they’ll be met with disdain. This girl, who has achieved so much, who has been revered throughout her high school career as brilliant and driven, will suddenly be viewed a failure… a disappointment… lazy. “You are too smart to SIT at home”, they’ll say. So maybe she’ll go to school and get a career that she will resent and then feel immense guilt and pain over leaving her children everyday because she has feared the ridicule of staying home. Or maybe she decides to follow her heart and she stays home because she knows that the cold, hard truth is that you cannot be everything and you cannot do everything without something having to give somewhere. So she’ll take the ridicule and she’ll bear the burden of being viewed as “lazy” or “less than”. She’ll take it, because she knows that in her last days, it will not be money or career that she wishes she had more of…it will be time with her children. You couldn’t pay me enough to give that up.

    • Jo says:

      I have read this several times and cannot rectify it with reality. What I mean is does she have a boyfriend who has asked her to marry him and he is able to support a family? If that is the case I highly doubt anyone would call her lazy, a failure, say she is a disappointment. They would congratulate her.

      Now if she has declared she is going to skip college, go bar hopping until she finds said man, yeah, she would hear that and a lot worse. There is a lot of time between high school and babies! You have to do something. Do you want to work unskilled? Oh she will find herself a fine husband at Wal Mart!

      I mean that is what I don’t understand about your statement. You seem to want to think people will look down at her for wanting to be a stay at home mom when in reality they would be looking down at her for making a stupid choice. You don’t declare I want to be a mom in high school when you have no husband and no way to support yourself, that does make you seem stupid and lazy.

      I mean no one is looking down at my daughter who wants to be a stay at home mom while her potential kids are not in school. She has a degree, a job, and a fiancee. Really it is the man that makes it make sense as a goal though.

      • Jessica Mary says:

        Jo, I seem to have been all over the place in my post and I can see why it’s so confusing. While it’s my daughter that has me thinking so much about this topic, the girl I was writing about was actually me. Those were the choices and feelings I was facing as I graduated from high school. I married my high school sweetheart and have been a SAHM for 20 years. Our children range from age 19 to 4 and I home school. 20 years ago, I was the girl who felt pressured to go to college… and so I did, only to appease those around me. I was made to feel embarrassed to say that I just wanted to be a mom. So, I went. I even lied about how excited I was to be Occupational Therapist. However, I knew that I could never leave my children unless I absolutely had to. That was not me. I never did take the career path. My drive to be with my children gave me the strength to face the ridicule and I followed my heart instead. My high school sweetheart and I were married, just as we had planned to be and I have been home raising our family ever since. This was the right decision for us, made before we were even married. We both came from homes in which we remember the time when our own mothers stayed home and when they became career women. There was a change when they went to work. They were more tired and more stressed. We missed not having them home. For us, our decision was clear. However, I have felt the ridicule and I struggle with wondering how to handle this now with our daughters. Sometimes society pulls one way and your heart the other. I just want them to do what they want to do… whatever that may be.. without the pressure of society or the belittling of bitter women.

        • Jo says:

          I am not stupid in any sense of the word and no one gave me one bit of grief for dropping out of college and having kids. No one has ever looked down on me, nothing. No ridicule.

          I could care less if my daughters follow me. My older daughter is a teacher, she is getting her masters in early childhood development, her fiancee is a CPA. She wants to stay some while they are young but go back to work when they are in school, she is making her own path and really doesn’t look to others for validation either, She will always be home when her kids are home.

          I am an analyst, I am mostly home when my teens are home and if they need me to be somewhere I have the flexibility to be there. I guess I taught my daughters they can have a family, a career, they can have whatever the want.

    • Katelyn L says:

      I agree with you whole heartedly! I went to college and earned a bachelors degree in Nursing (summa cum laude). I am currently staying at home with my one year old and I love the place I am at. However, I constantly hear grief from my family about “How I am too smart to stay at home.”, “You are wasting your education!” It is very disappointing that they can not be happy for me. I will listen to all of it gladly though because he is worth it.

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      • Julie says:

        🙂 I graduated from nursing school, now i am 13 wks pregnant, too sick to focus on anything. blessed enough to be able to live on one income and we’ve decided that I should stay home (which is what I’ve really always dreamed of.) So glad others still feel the same. there is so much pressure to be “important” and get a “real job.”

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  14. Katie says:

    My husband and I have 5 children. For whatever reason, I’m able to make significantly more income from my job than my husband does. Without my income, we would have to sign up for food stamps and get government subsidies for health insurance using other people’s hard-earned money. I don’t feel it’s best for us to teach our children to depend on other people’s money, so I go to work every day to pay for the things we need. We don’t have a big fancy house or the latest video games (we don’t have any video games), but we can afford to buy groceries and clothes and gas, and we send out children to a private Christian school. I do my best to make every precious moment count when I’m home with my kids. I read with them, I pray with them, and I talk to them about their day. I involve them in their community and work hard to love them and teach them to love others without judging. As much as I’d love to be home all day with my kids (and I know it’s hard work to do so), I believe that God has provided me with a situation that is HIS ideal for our family. I guess I don’t see why there has to be such a war or an “us vs. them” mentality when it comes to working moms and stay-at-home moms. Can’t it be assumed that we’re all trying to do what’s best for our kids? Can’t we find ways to support each other and treat each other with as much respect and honor as we want for ourselves? Could it be that “the ideal” is different for each family based on the unique path God has chosen for them?

  15. Reuben says:

    Agreed! Thanks for the blog. My wife just spent the day bring one kid to school, taking care of another sick kid and a baby all day, making meals, cleaning, organizing, and then gets a bit of down time until having to get up every few hours in the night to feed a baby. She is my hero. She gets next to no credit for it. Our society idolizes money, entertainment, and comfort and will work themselves to death to sustain them.

    • Michele Williams says:

      Reuben – don’t expect society to give her credit – that needs to come from YOU first and foremost …. I’m sure your wife would appreciate YOUR encouragement and support way more than anyboby else … Speaking as a wife and mother who works. Screw society – if my husband is happy and tells me so, when the kids cuddle up to me at night … THAT matters – THAT makes me smile and want to work harder to do better for my family every day … to heck with society …

  16. Freereel says:

    Methinks he doth protest too much.

    Is motherhood a wonderful thing? Yes. Do mothers with jobs outside the home sometimes condescend to stay-at-home moms? Yes.

    But going on and on about how staying at home attending to every single minute of a child’s day is the most productive, most noble thing in the universe is just trying way too hard.

    I mean, listen to this: “[Mothers} ought to be put on a pedestal. We ought to revere them and admire them like we admire rocket scientists and war heroes.” Wow. By definition, the number of geniuses and heroes we can keep track of is limited to a tiny percentage of the population. But the majority of women become mothers. The logic is kind of absurd. Essentially, Matt wants to label almost half the population as heroes. A pedestal puts one person above the rest. Matt’s pedestal to all mothers is going to have to be one hugely wide pedestal!

    And he wants this pedestal to be not just wide, but very, very tall, the highest pedestal of all! Most women do it, but Matt says it’s more impressive than rocket science! In Matt’s opinion, the job one mother does carries more consequences for society than any other job he can think of.

    Being a good parent is important, but not all the hours of the day are high-value added. A certain percentage of time spent as a stay-at-home mom is NOT spent forging children’s characters, teaching them Chinese, or building their self-esteem. Some percentage of time is essentially spent babysitting. And the going rate for babysitting is $10-15 an hour. A fair bit less than the going rate for a rocket scientist. And mothers themselves are the ones who usually hire babysitters and determine how much to pay them!

    Is motherhood noble? Yes. Is it important? Yes. But is every hour of the job of motherhood the most valuable way anyone could spend an hour? No. An hour of babysitting is worth $10, not an exalted place on a pedestal and silly claims that it’s the most important way to spend an hour in the whole wide world.”

    The ability of adults to exclusively focus on motherhood is the exception, not the rule, in history. Most mothers throughout history have simultaneously worked hard “outside the home” as hunter/gatherers, etc. Not just homemakers, but providers. In certain extremely affluent societies like the United States, it has been possible for some women to focus exclusively on motherhood. As your “friendly lady” APPROPRIATELY said, “Must be nice!”

    Women are free to choose to be stay at home moms, and they are free to resent criticism, but this insistence that their choice must also be honored as the HARDEST and MOST VALUABLE job in the world is patently ridiculous. Entrepreneurs who employ thousands of people actually enable the support of hundreds of stay at home mothers. Even by Matt’s twisted logic, that must make those entrepreneurs even more noble than individual mothers, if only because they enable more mothering!

    So, the next time someone tells you “it must be nice” for your wife to get to exclusively focus on the noble calling of stay-at-home mothering, count your blessings and smile. Don’t get all petulant and politically correct and insist that everyone agree that your wife’s CHOICE is the most valuable thing in the world.

    • Jenn says:

      All of this is true. None of the Matt Walsh worshippers want to hear it though. It’s unfortunate because the more they put down working parents in order to make themselves feel better, the more they lose respect rather than gain it.

      SAHMs are doing an important job for their families, certainly. And their families should thank them. But society does not need to thank them other than in a vague “thank you for making sure your kids turn out to be good people” kind of way.

    • Jaisee says:

      A completely logical post. I agree with everything you said.

      When you think about it, you can put anyone on a pedestal.

      Also, if everyone sat around monitoring children all day, we would still be hunters and gatherers. We wouldn’t have rocket scientists. Or doctors. Or nurses. Or police officers. Or firefighters. Or researchers trying to find a cure for cancer.

      We wouldn’t have gone to the Moon or have put satellites in space or be trying to explore planets beyond our own rock.

      I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that if all of the police officers in Matt’s community went on strike, he might think twice about his “you are expendable; you are a number” comment.

      Does Matt have a daughter? If so, is he going to tell her to be a stay-at-home mom? No. He is going to tell his daughter that she can be anything that she wants to be, and whether that is a doctor, or a lawyer, or a stay-at-home mom, it will be o.k. with him. And if she becomes a doctor and starts her own practice, has a child, and then decides to continue working, it will be o.k. with him. Because she’s his daughter.

      But it is o.k. for him to look down upon the choices of everyone else’s daughters.

      Maybe not, though. That’s many years down the road. Maybe he’ll have grown up by then.

    • Michele Williams says:

      So TRUE – very well put! Kudos!

  17. Tracy Martin says:

    I have been married for 9 years and have 3 and 7 yo girls, I stayed home for the first year with both but I like working. It is just not enough to do at home, my girls go to private schools, I don’t agree with home school, I don’t want anti-social kids. What if your husband lost his job or leave us? Ladies u always have to have a rainy day fund.

  18. What a heady combination; motherhood, family & business. No wonder it’s such a daunting move for most women, but according to Myriam Borg, founder of Cre8 Australia, the alternatives, are far scarier. “I look at my girlfriends who climbed the corporate ladder and none of them are coping. Their day starts at 6:00am so that they get the kids to day care and be at work by 8:30am. Because they have good position, they rarely get home before 7.30 pm… A lot of women can relate to that and it’s not pretty, these women are exhausted!

  19. Diana says:

    “Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined.”

    My mother did all of these things (scratch the “twins” and replace with “three smart and kind children”) AND she worked full-time, setting a wonderful example of a strong, loving woman who is not only a birthgiver and caretaker, but also a woman with career aspirations of her own. Your wife is not capable of doing so, or does not desire to do so, and that’s OK – not everyone’s as awesome as MY mom. But I too would expect that a stay-at-home mom has downtime, because my wonderful mother was able to work full-time as well as be the most perfect mother in the world. Still, there’s nothing wrong with being a woman of leisure.

  20. Helen says:

    A brilliantly written peice. Thank you fir sharing.

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    konsumenckiej, która sprowadza się de facto aż do redukcji
    kredytu tudzież nie bankructwa. to iż koryfeusz nie przypadkiem wyrównać rachunki długu jest nie owszem jego
    winą niemniej jednak tudzież owego jaki mu
    finanse wynająłby.

  22. Sara says:

    Great post! I enjoyed reading the article. For a Women who has to take care of work and home both, telecommuting is the best opportunity, she should utilize. More and more companies are promoting the idea of Work from home. This can be considered as the future working model.

  23. Phil says:

    I agree with everything you say, but if you think it’s hard being a ‘stay-at-home mum’ – try being a stay-at-home dad!!! The comments from some – no, MOST – people have to be heard to be believed.

  24. Renee Marie Long says:

    I was a happily single, business woman for many years, then in my 30s met and married a wonderful man (I know good people when I meet them and I would have been a fool to walk away) We had our only child at age 40 (heck of an age to START chasing babies!) I was apprehensive to say the least….at that point my income was greater than my husband’s (he is partially disabled) but it wouldn’t stretch for day care, and certainly couldn’t be sacrificed altogether to stay home with baby! I quickly sought education in human development and infant and toddler care, and not only became a professional mom….I extended that talent and expertise to other children. It brought socialization to both my child and myself – met and learned a lot about some great people who made different but equally satisfying choices for themselves. And no travel expense!

  25. Mere des Jumelles says:

    I both salute this article and criticize it. As a whole society needs to move away from judging women who stay at home raising children, and women who work during motherhood. For some, these are choices, for others, not at all. Among people who expect women to work while raising children, a woman staying home fulltime with kids is seen as not as intelligent, lacking ambition wasting her education. From the stay-at-home mommies, I have seen pity and/or disdain towards women who choose to work or “have to work”. Don’t kid yourself, among the upper middle class and “the 1%”, the stay-at-home mothers look at their freedom to not work as a trophy of sorts, and other women who must work are unfortunate; meaning their kids are also unfortunate and not getting “the best” of their mothers.

    Most women would like to stay at home—at least during a few of their children’s growing years—- yet few really have that luxury, and must work. Not to support excessive lifestyles, but, among the labor class, just to have food on the table. And among the formerly-known-as ” middle class”, the ability to have a house, save for college.

    —-from a mom with a formerly high-paying career who stopped to raise twins, and found our family financially hard hit by this “choice”.

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