Dear son, don’t let Robin Thicke be a lesson to you

***Update, August 1: In response to the thousands of people who, after reading this entire post, decided to harp on one single phrase (“I’m no feminist”), I wrote this. If you want to know how I can say all the things I say here, yet still reject “feminism,” click the link and I’ll explain. Otherwise, carry on. Thanks for stopping by.

Our country dangles on the precipice of starting a third World War. We are on the verge of a completely unnecessary conflict where the United States will fight along side Al Qaeda and the Muslim Brotherhood. This, in another day and age, might earn the crown as the Most Controversial Story of the Week. But we’re in the year 2013, and this is America, so a young pop star’s dance moves on an MTV awards show have predictably overshadowed the prospect of global chaos and bloodshed. I wrote about Cyrusgate myself, simply making the rather obvious point that pornographic sexual degradation and confusion are interwoven into virtually every facet of our society, so it’s a bit absurd to randomly erupt with shock and outrage at one comparatively minor manifestation of our collective cultural rot.

Yet the backlash continues, with most of the commentary — including my own — about, or directed at, Miley Cyrus. But she was joined on stage that fateful evening by another pop star: a grown man by the name of Robin Thicke. While Cyrus twerked against his crotch, he sang his hit song “Blurred Lines.” This little ditty — along with being vapid, stupid, and incredibly grating — is an anthem to fornication and objectification. Check out a few of the poetic lines from this classy number:

OK now he was close, tried to domesticate you
But you’re an animal, baby, it’s in your nature
Just let me liberate you

I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You’re a good girl
Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic
Talk about getting blasted

What do we need steam for
You the hottest bitch in this place
I feel so lucky
Hey, hey, hey
You wanna hug me

Seriously, only morons listen to garbage like this. Really.

In any case, this gives you an idea of the full scene: A 36 year old married man and father, grinding against an intoxicated 20 year old while singing about how she’s an “animal” and the “hottest bitch in this place.” And what happens the next day? We’re all boycotting the 20 year old. The grown man gets a pass.

Now I’m beginning to understand why that judge in Montana gave a teacher a 30 day jail sentence after he was convicted of raping a 14 year old girl, who later killed herself because of the psychological trauma caused by being sexually victimized by a 50 year old man. The esteemed judge actually justified giving a child rapist a punishment usually handed down to serial parking ticket violators, by saying the young child was “older than her chronological age,” and it wasn’t so bad because it wasn’t “forcible beat-up rape.”

This guy must be a Robin Thicke fan.

I’m no feminist. Miley Cyrus is an adult and should be held responsible for her actions. But where are the men in all of this? Have we so completely given up on chivalry that we don’t even see what’s troubling about a GROWN ASS MARRIED DUDE singing a song about sexual domination while dry humping a young woman on national TV? Men in this culture need to stand up and be leaders. I don’t want to talk about the Miley Cyruses of the world. Enough is said about them. I want to talk about the legions of cowardly, amoral adult men who graduate college and still carry on like frat boys well into their 60’s. The girls that behave like Miley Cyrus do so because they want to attract men. And it works.

It shouldn’t.

A few days ago a mom blogger wrote a letter to her daughter entitled “Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you.” Well, I have a daughter, and I echo this woman’s sentiments. But I also have a son, and I don’t want the boys to get off the hook here. My little man isn’t old enough to read yet, but one day he will be, and one day I’ll give him this letter. I don’t know if he’ll get the Robin Thicke reference at that point, but the message, I suspect, will still be urgent and relevant:

Dear son,

Don’t let Robin Thicke be a lesson to you.

Don’t let any of these pigs and perverts you see on TV be a lesson to you. They treat women like garbage; they possess no chivalry, no self control; they are disloyal and dishonest; they spend all day pursuing pleasure at the expense of others, and they encourage you to do the same. You might be tempted to follow suit. In fact, you WILL be tempted. These male pop stars and celebrities, look at them, you’ll think. They take advantage of emotionally broken, self loathing, confused young women, and they are rewarded handsomely for it. Look at their nice clothes and their nice cars. Look how they are admired and loved. Look, they treat women like trash and other women fawn all over them because of it. This must be how real men behave, you’ll think.

And you’ll be wrong. You’ll be wrong about a lot of things in life — this is what it means to be human — but never will you be more wrong than when you feel the temptation to buy the lies that pop culture sells about the nature of true masculinity. Son, there is nothing glamorous or fun about being a man of low character and no integrity. What you see on TV is a facade. It’s a sales pitch. It’s poison. You see the bright lights and the sexy women, but you don’t see what happens when the cameras are off and these pop culture gods return to their lives as mere mortals. You don’t see them in their big, empty, lonely houses. You don’t see the emptiness in the pit of their souls. You don’t see all the alcohol and drugs they have to use to dull the pain of living a life devoid of real, committed relationships. You don’t see the hatred they have for themselves and for humanity. You don’t see the jealousy they have towards normal, decent men.

Your dad is no celebrity. He’s just an average, boring guy. But he’s got something that every famous and non-famous womanizer envies: He’s got the love and commitment of ONE beautiful, smart, faithful woman. He’s got your mom, and he’ll only have your mom until the day he dies. He ought to be waking up every day shouting praises to the Lord because of that.

Listen, son, don’t let the world tell you how to be a man. They don’t know anything about the subject.

Men are loyal. Men are honest. Men respect and honor women. A man goes out and finds one woman, and he vows to protect and love her for the rest of his life. A man would never betray that vow. Even the weakest and most cowardly man — if he is a man at all — would die for the woman he loves. Your dad is no hero, but let someone try to hurt your mom and watch him suddenly turn into Superman (or Batman, whichever you prefer).

See, son, you don’t have to be big and strong to be a man, although I think you will be one day. You don’t have to be “cool” or athletic. You don’t have to play guitar or fix cars. These are all fine things, but they don’t define a man. A man is defined by how he treats women, by how he keeps his promises, and by how he protects and serves the ones he loves. That’s what makes a man a man. My dad taught me that, he taught it by example. I pray I can do the same for you.

Oh, and by the way, if I ever catch you disrespecting women, I will sit you down and talk to you about it. But first I’ll kick your butt up and down the street. That’s a promise.

Love,

Your old man

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  2. Karen says:

    I came across your blog today and I am a fan already! :)) I have a son who is turning 2 in a few months and the tantrums have started. So far no dirty looks or comments from strangers, lucky for me most people have been tolerant and understanding. When I was younger I was irritated by screaming kids, maybe even eye-rolled a parent or two. I didn’t know that screaming toddlers are ‘normal’ and thought that parents were either doing something wrong or should be doing something to stop them (HAHA!)
    I have nothing but sympathy and understanding for parents (DER!) and cringe at my pre-baby behavior…..I guess you just don’t know what you don’t know.

    • Jerry S says:

      I didn’t know that screaming toddlers are ‘normal’ and thought that parents were either doing something wrong or should be doing something to stop them (HAHA!)

      Screaming Toddlers ARE NOT normal, in the sense that it’s ok to act like an idiot. I have three well productive citizens of society, that are my children. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, did they throw a tantrum and if yours do then you, and all the other lazy parents who have screaming children, are DEFINITELY doing something WRONG!

      • JJ says:

        Toddlers do react and scream at times. It is normal for some young ones to over react to their hand getting stuck in a toy, getting a water bottle taken away by another toddler during playtime or a mommie meetup etc….It happens. Their little brains are developing and eventually with proper guidance they will learn to understand what is petty and how to react without over reacting.

      • FFP says:

        Actually, sometimes an upset toddler is very normal. Some of them yell, some hit, some bang their own heads, some throw things, some bite, and once they become more verbal and start to get a small grasp on these immense emotions, well they become productive members of society. Your intolerance does not help anyone and neither does your self righteousness. If you were so fortunate to have children who never once had an out of line emotion then God Bless.

      • that is utter BS…toddlers throw a tantrum because they cannot control their environment and dont understand yet why they cannot have what they want…its how the parent handles the tantrum that defines if they are managing the behaviour well or not, not whether or not the kids is having a strop.

        So your kids never EVER had a temper tantrum? Then they were either robots or too scared of you to react in a normal way for a toddler.

        The point of parenting is to help these toddlers GRADUALLY learn how to accept disapointment and lack of control in their lives gracefully without over reacting and being aggressive. Therefore they will have a period of learning time where they get it wrong …thats how they learn! Trial and error….it takes time and hence temper tantrums being NORMAL!

      • wow, um you must have kept you “citizens” in a sound proof bubble their whole toddlerhood, cuz a toddlers tantrums are their way of expression frustration, and who in the world ARE YOU to tell a parent they are “DEFINITELY doing something WRONG!” so because my child is going throu events in her life that she does no have the word to articulate at THREE AND A HALF i am a “lazy” parent.. i have some choice words for you… but ill keep most of them in. But i will tell your sorry “all knowing” egocentric self that if you choose to JUDGE another parent you had better get ALL OF YOUR FACTS straight before passing judgement. For my judgment to you is your a prick and if your kids didnt “throw a tantrum” its cuz they were scared you were gonna beat their asses black and blue if they ever did. You have no empathy and i feel sorry for you, your children and any REAL UPSTANDING citizen that has to deal with you on ANY level.

  3. Jan says:

    Just stumbled into your little reality check. Fabulous. Thank you for your frankness, your directness and aligning the lines of pride and humanity we should all be following.

  4. Kelli says:

    I was *just* asking this same question as soon as the backlash started on Cyrus….Why did Thicke get a pass on this one? I also thought about the shock value….it really wasn’t all that shocking, unfortunately. Thank you for keeping me from standing alone.

  5. Barb says:

    This is what we will say to our little man. 🙂

  6. Kristen says:

    I have two year old twin boys. Thanks for this. 🙂

  7. gary lopez says:

    Sometimes outrageous behavior is responded to by equally outrageous criticism. I saw the Cyrus blogger’s response and now this. I think the best way for a child to learn and give respect toward the opposite sex is through modeling it by the parents, through a faith community, and a whole host of alternative entertainment and education. You said it best “Seriously, only morons listen to garbage like this. Really.” Yes really. So why are you so engaged with this and more importantly why is your child so engaged with this? Is this really about your son/child or about you impressing your readers with your “righteous” indignation? Maybe fewer words and more action on the part of parents will limit this discussion & fruitless attempts at such warnings. Why are you paying so much attention to “Morons”. They love the attention; makes em’ bad! Enough said.

    • OH come ON now— REALLY, no… really?? Step back from your indignant outrage and look again at what he wrote. I am a grandma and even I get it.
      Rock on Matt Walsh – those who get it, get it. Those who don’t…never will.

    • We have to remember Miley was put up to it by some very wealthy and influential people and compensated well or she wouldn’t have done it. It’s those degenerate souls whose feet need to be held to the fire. Elton John on the Ellen DeGenerus show–not saying they’re degenerate, you understand…but, certainly, not Biblical–justified what Cyrus did…”the goal is to lay everyone else flat” or some such wording “and she did it”.
      Let it be said that some people are NOT fighters; however, they have a God-given wealth of righteous indignation which is their active conscience working to restore goodness within their sphere. We need a lot more of that alive and well and working. I, also, add…when the Bible is not seen as relevant in our world, all society goes loosey-goosey. Having said the above…the greatest offense is to those impressionable children watching Cyrus’ antics. That visual doubtless can never be erased.

  8. I have two sons as well, and i want them to respect everyone, man, woman, animal, whatever. But i know they won’t be able to do that if they don’t respect themselves first. Starting with ourselves allows us to treat others with dignity. Thanks for the message!!

  9. Amen! What an absolute breath of fresh air you are. Your blog is hilarious, raw, and genuine…Can’t wait to read more!!!!

  10. Ayla says:

    This is exactly why I am single. It is soooo hard to find real men these days! Unfortunately women have lost sight of how men should treat us and yet we complain when we are treated like garbage. Doesn’t make any sense does it? In some ways I am old fashioned and in others, a modern day feminist. But I am very scared of getting married these days. I have been married once before and now that I have been in the “dating” scene, at this point I think I would rather be single for the rest of my life. Most men I find only want a one night stand and nothing meaningful. Not to mention how a lot of married men act, it is completely horrible! maybe one day I might find a nice man and maybe I won’t. Until that day, I will be happiest as a single woman! (Also I would like to thank you for showing that there are still some decent men out there, even if you are a happily married man!)

  11. Sterngirl says:

    Strangle, I feel the urge here to reply in support of Robin Thicke- I do like the Blurred Lines song, and tried to like other music by Thicke but I really couldn’t bring myself to. You have taken his song, and his story out of context. In a recent interview with Howard Stern, RT totally impressed me with his life story- he started out as a young song writer, and he made it as a writer at a young age and was pretty much supporting himself after his famous father refused to just hand over pots of cash to him. He just couldn’t ever write himself a one hit wonder such as Blurred Lines. His Dad was a ladies man, (womanizer?, charismatic) and Robin grew up with a sexually open family- but the one thing he figured that he could do better than his Dad was to be a good, loyal husband/partner- he is devoted to his highschool sweetheart and now wife, and over the years, he has turned her into this Blurred Line good girl, who plays around with costumes, etc but is really deep down just a nice girl- he said they get more enjoyment talking about threesomes than ever really having them- not denying that they had at least once though. He wrote the song quickly, it was one of those free flowing moments, not like the unsuccessful songs that he would work on for ages- and yes, you are right, the lyrics certainly have a vapid meets wtf going on, but hey- lyrics are nothing without context of the song and the story behind the song. He was really unsure about the Blurred Lines video (an idea born from his female manager), and thought the naked chick stuff would end up on the cutting room floor- but he showed the video to his wife and she absolutely loved it. So he went with it. As for the Miley C stuff, he sang his song, he was hired to do a job and he did it. What do you expect him to do, humiliate her onstage and shove her ass aside? The song is edgy. I personally think the whole thing is an over reaction too and now you seem to over react on the other side of it. I am a female, I am not a feminist (probably obvious at this point), but I think you used the wrong person and situation to focus a thoughtful and important subject here. Good work otherwise, I am a new fan and will keep reading!

    • cecilia gross says:

      Seriously SternGirl? Robin Thicke told his “story” to Howard Stern? Howard Stern??!! There’s a nod to accuracy in reporting. Robin Thicke looked like an asshole whether he’s married or not. He’s old enough to be Miley’s father…enough of this garbarge glorifying trashiness for young girls and old farts pretending they’re cool and still in their 20’s.

  12. Sterngirl says:

    Opps I meant to say, Strangely! Not strangle… 🙂

  13. pshepworth says:

    I love this. Thank you.

  14. Kathy says:

    I wanted to let you know I have a 17 year old son, senior in high school and I used some of your words. He attends a Christian High School and I know what he is being taught, I also know temptation and peer pressure, and I wanted him to hear this from another man, not just his Mom. thanks….

  15. Jay says:

    Men must define themselves, and they do that in part through their treatment of EVERYONE (including themselves), not just women. When you can reach a point at which you are not defined primarily or exclusively by your relationship to and/or worship of a woman, you will have understood the definition of true manhood.

    Until then, you’re just another supplicating white knight.

  16. Shel says:

    As a young woman, I am so grateful to see a man who understands how degrading the men in our society have become.
    Thank you for teaching your son to be respectful and a true man.

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  22. nealgellaco says:

    Hear, hear! Please take time to read, comment and like this:
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  23. MommynatorRN says:

    My only quibble with your post is the way you insulted pigs. : )

  24. Miles says:

    You must be against violent video games and horror movies too, right?

    I agree with the principals you touch on here, but a song about sex does not make someone a pig.

    You need to separate entertainment from reality.

    Unless your point is that entertainment mediums are so strong these days that they need to be more responsible? Maybe, I disagree with it, but I can understand it.

    For me, it comes down to this old story.

    Be a good parent and talk to your kids, teach them good values and teach them right from wrong, fantasy vs reality, and they will grow up to be good people, NO MATTER WHAT they watch of listen to. I played the most violent games, watched horror movies since I was 7, and listen to death metal with lyrics about undead trees come to life and raping pregnant women with their vines. Do I actually like that in real life? No, it’s just a story in a song. I was taught good things from early on, I can separate these things from how the real world should be.

    • Barb Burs says:

      I wonder how OLD you are, Sir, you must be my age, cause 40 yrs. ago, parents WERE around to teach their children all of the ‘good’ facts of life. Sad to say, oh so many moms and dads are too busy working AWAY from home, spending less than 2 hrs. a day teaching their God-given gifts, namely, their children.

    • Natalie says:

      Yes but here’s the thing. When artists now-a-days sing songs like this, they’re just glorifying sex and talking about how fabulous it is to bang one chick after the other.

  25. Marco says:

    You’re taking parts of the song completely out of context. The song is meant to be lighthearted and fun – notice the catchy beat and the not-too-deep voices. Anyone can take particular lyrics from a song and jump to the conclusion that the song is bad as a whole, or in your case, that the song is bad for your son or society as a whole. Watch:

    I hurt myself today
    To see if I still feel

    The needle tears a hole
    The old familiar sting
    Try to kill it all away
    But I remember everything

    Johnny Cash – Hurt. It doesn’t take much imagination to write up an article bashing the song as a whole based on a select few lyrics.

    Here, let me try again. Keep in mind that I don’t have a list of songs just for this sort of thing. I’m going off whatever comes off the top of my head, simply to show you that’s it’s easy to misrepresent a song by it’s select lyrics.

    She’s there to love me
    All day and night
    Never grumbles or fusses
    Just treats me right
    Never runnin’ in the streets
    Leave me alone
    She knows a woman’s place
    Is right back there with her hanging around the home

    The Beatles – I Got A Woman. Again, it’s not very challenging to see how you can select a few lyrics from a song and immediately judge a song based off that.

    Does that mean that this song is suddenly absolved of any misogynistic undertones it may have? Not really. But that doesn’t mean that you can select a few lyrics from a song and start chirping on the internet. You started this blog post with talking about the current state of world affairs. Let me ask you, what exactly does this article provide in response to everything you mentioned? Nothing. You’re a blogger droned out in a sea of other bloggers. You aren’t adding anything to society by picking out 12 lines from a catchy song and crying about it. You aren’t even suggesting any sort of proactive approach to reducing this sort of thing. It’s one big complaint. There is a word reserved for that sort of thing: ranting.

    Not only are you ranting but you’re almost in agreeance with a section of the song. You even quoted it. Here it is.

    You’re far from plastic

    The song is about blurred lines and how society expects women to behave a certain way, yet realistically, women are people. Dude. Women aren’t plastic barbie dolls and men aren’t knights in shining armor, galloping over mountains on our white steeds to save them. We’re people. We’re human. There are a number of needs we have, one of them being sexuality. One of my psychology professors always used to repeat “if we can’t feed from it, fight it, or fuck it, we won’t pay any attention to it.” Although I feel that’s an oversimplification of human nature, the point still stands: women aren’t barbie dolls and men aren’t knights here to save ladies from the evils of society. Chivalry might not be dead but I think you should open your eyes. “Don’t tell the world tell you how to be a man” and yet “Men are loyal. Men are honest. Men respect and honor women.” I don’t know how much more romanticized your outlook on life could be.

    The whole is greater than the sum of it’s parts. You had a bad reaction to an otherwise innocent and catchy tune and decided to rant about it on the internet. No big deal. But as you put it so convincingly,

    Seriously, only morons listen to garbage like this. Really.

    • robinsmelody says:

      “You are taking the song completely out of context” ??? This is pretty funny. I used to say that to my parents back in the 70’s! I knew better back then too!
      And, there’s a difference – or to many of us we think there SHOULD be a difference – in sexuality being a need and how you express or fulfill that need. Personally, my belief that sex is a glorious God given pleasure to be shared with your spouse. I think expressing it in public as a perversion is sad.
      My opinions about sex aside, cheering Miley on as she degrades herself is sad. Miley is a young lady with many issues that she will need to deal with over the years. Just because her money making business people and the attention greedy Robin Thicke take advantage of her doesn’t mean the rest of us have to. Nor do we have to pretend that this is right. I get it that you disagree. I disagree with you. In this case the Emperor did have his/her clothes on, but I still refuse to pretend.

    • Luke freebergh says:

      Dude, you’re an idiot. This guy is genius and he is making complete sense. Clearly you’re a Robin Thicke fan and an immoral slob trying to make excuses for this slum behavior. I’m with Walsh, as I know what it means to be a real man. Our country is going into a huge down spiral, our economy, our sense of pride and responsibility as adults. This is all interwoven into what has been presented here in this blog.

  26. amera says:

    I wish this was read at every college orientation day.

    • amera says:

      Also,

      When I, a woman in her 20’s is alerted to attention by “Aye yo bitch.” followed up by, “Is that store closed?” while attempting to walk into a grocery store, there’s something wrong with our culture.

  27. John says:

    This entire article is absolute, misogynistic nonsense because it implies Cyrus had absolutely NO say in what happened to her. You’re assuming women have no input in how they’re treated by men, and that Miley has to be the ‘timid, little girl’ you’re portraying her as and ‘bend down and take it’ (and no, that isn’t some chauvinistic pun, don’t bite my head off).

    Your constant referrals to Thicke as a ‘grown ass man’ are hilarious, because in contrast you’re portraying Miley – a woman old enough to have been ENGAGED, as somehow not a grown woman herself. In this strange, little white-knight fantasy you’ve constructed – she’s just a victim.

    But I want you to actually LOOK at what’s happening on the stage. Miley is choosing to dance, she’s choosing to grind, and she’s choosing to dangle her tongue out her mouth like a perpetually thirsty puppy. Sure, she looks like an idiot – but she’s having fun doing it, which is well within her right. She’s not got some ‘big, strong, misogynistic man making her doing it’, she’s CHOOSING to do it.

    Do I think she’s experiencing a bit of a break-down? Yes.
    Do I think the media is capitalizing FAR too much on it? Hell yes.

    But don’t for one moment think that what happened on that stage wasn’t her idea. We’ve been shown time and time again in the past that fading stars resort to crazy things to keep themselves glowing, and what happened was a result of her decisions – which she has every right to make.

    • jfigz says:

      I understand that I am late on this but I just had to reply. He is not saying that Robin Thicke is some big, bad, puppetmaster who forced the poor, innocent Miley into degrading herself on national television. He’s saying that as an equal participant, Thicke deserves some of the disgust that has been hurled at Miley. He’s also saying that if weren’t for men like Thicke, who act as though all women exist to fulfill his sexual desires, young girls (which Miley is most definitely a young girl despite your protestations to the contrary) wouldn’t feel as though this type of behavior was necessary to attract/entertain/engage men.

      She may legally be an adult but the truth is that 20 year olds know nothing (or very little) about the responsibilities of being am adult or the long-term consequences of their choices. Thicke, however, should, at his age, understand and respect himself/Miley/his wife/his children/women as a whole more than what he showed on that stage. So while they both have the right to make such choices she lacks the life experience and wisdom to really grasp that degrading one’s self for the entire world to see is not only detrimental to herself but to all of the tween/teen girls that have looked up to her for years.

  28. Joleen Paiz says:

    You May not think your a hero but you are. That was an amazing letter said so well. We need more men like you in the world. I now cant wait to write my own letter to my two boys. Thanks for the inspiration.

  29. songsofintimacy says:

    Oooohhh I absolutely looved your letter to your son!! Made me tear up..sniff-sniff.
    Kudos to you….you are one of those REAL men that boys can look up to and learn from! Keep it up. Also
    May I please (copy)reblog your letter on my blog at http://www.songsofintimacy.wordpress.com
    ??

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  31. Jollarn says:

    Haha congrats on turning your son into a beta male

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  34. Terisa says:

    Great piece! This encompasses everything that we teach our 9 year old son and 5 year old daughter, and it’s nice to see other people share our views as well. Thank you for writing this. My husband read your letter to our son and he listened and gave you a thumbs up too! 🙂

  35. Jena Rohatinsky says:

    You are amazing. Thank heavens for men like you who can write so well and get this message out there. Thanks a million!!!

  36. emscrane92 says:

    What if he is gay? I respect and appreciate the sentiments of being kind of thoughtful and gentle to others because everyone is going through something. But it seems a little heteronormative, and a little simplistic as well to put women into the role of victim, or someone who needs to be protected.

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  39. mental says:

    Dear Matt Walsh, you are not special, you are just another supplicating white knight mangina feminist who puts women on a pedestal and thinks women are always victims. You don’t know shit about what a real man is, and you won’t even when you eventually get divorced by your “special snowflake”.

    • kbee8 says:

      Matt Walsh is an excellent example of a real man, and exactly what most women are hoping to marry.

    • notso_fast says:

      Nope. Don’t buy this negative argument. He wins with women, we agree with him.
      PS Swearing is not attractive.

  40. Tim says:

    What rhymes with hug me?

  41. That is a really good tip especially to those new to the blogosphere.
    Short but very accurate info… Many thanks for sharing this one.
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  42. Dear Matt,
    I try really hard to respect my self and others by dressing nicely trying to be personable instead of just a “hot piece of ass”.
    But even being just a plain-old nice person is sexual to most men.
    You actually made me cry because you reminded me that I am worth so much damned more then they could ever know.
    I pray I will always remember that while far and few between, there are men who will respect me, who I can respect in return, and that I don’t have to settle for less.

    Thank you,
    Isabel

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